When I first left my H 6 years ago, & after I found out he had messed up my IRS taxes with my inheritance & he was having some serious mental issues, I wrote an email telling his parents that they may need to find a way to control his financial problems & that I would not be returning to him because of all the issues that I listed.

They never replied to me....but at the time I could still log into the email account my H had from 2100 miles away......they sent him an email totally bashing me for leaving him.......

Realized at that point that they are just as pathetic as he is....& realized where he got it from.....so glad to be out of that family & have nothing more to do with them.....as their little boy could never do anything wrong & I was the horrible one who had suffered from depression & overreacted to loosing my career....what they didn't grasp is that the overreaction was being trapped in the marriage I couldn't get out of at the time.

It was liberating to be able to read that & it gave me the insight I needed for the break away from H & them.

I feel no remorse for reading that. Besides the fact that he never communicated with me anyway....it was the only way I could find out what was going on if he communicated over email...but he doesn't even have a FB account & isn't into the computer stuff...he wasn't even when we were living in the same house....he only like to program computers & fix them....it didn't like to use them.

However, I don't post on FB or anything where if he chose to look, could find out anything about me....I keep everything away from his knowledge at this point....just like he always did with me even when we were living in the same house.....lies by omission....that was always his style....so I felt that sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do to survive a relationship like that while I had to.

They say, "all's fair in love & war"......my marriage definitely wasn't love...but it sure was war.