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Old May 25, 2013, 03:44 AM
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government has a duty of care towards the children of the UK, so wherever there is doubt over safety/abuse or the ability of the raiser/carer the local childrens services will automatically place a SW to investigate/work with the parents, m/h by nature screams doubt, that is why they are involved. that does not mean you are by any means a bad mother, it simply is precaution as some parents with M/H issues are unable to cope with children too during their illness putting them all at risk.

don't tell them in verbal words about the mistakes in the report, write a dated factual letter referencing every tiny mistake and exactly what it should really be stating in each case, do not waffle, state only the facts as they are more likely to read it the whole way through e.g.

your address
date
dear x,
having read the report dated... of which i enclose a copy, i believe it to contain many inaccuracies and request it to be ammended to portray the following.

1. paragraph... line .. states..... where in fact what was said was .
2. paragraph... line .. states..... where in fact what i was trying to state/get across was.....
etc
If you need further clarification i can be contacted on ..phone number.. between..two times..on ..a specific date or two if you feel generous..
i look forward to receiving an ammended copy as soon as is possible to rectify the inaccuracies.
sign and print your name.
then hand it directly to the SW involved.

if you do not like the SW who has been designated to you you lawfully have the right to request and be appointed with a different one - the statement 'i do not feel i can work with this person' really works well in requesting a change of SW. you need to have reasons ready, things like 'i do not trust her' 'i feel her ability to see the whole picture is being influenced by my diagnosis rather than the actual facts'. to request a different SW you need to go to or better still write to her superior or the head of childrens services in your area.

whatever you do, do everything you can in writing and keep a copy, that way they can not deny anything as you have proof of what you wrote and you can refer back to your letters. make sure you date each one for later reference. everytime the SW visits she makes a report, so everytime she comes request a copy of her report. that way you have a running book of accounts. you have the right to have copies of these reports and if she denies you this she is in breach of the law .

like all 'service workers' there are good and bad ones, some understand the strains of raising children and others see only the ideal way as the right way.

unfortunately it seems to be the norm for reports of any kind to contain many inaccuracies, if you read my reports i was given my dx between 2 and 7 years ago, am aged 32 or 45 depending on which one you believe (i am actually 42!) and lo and behold my partner died 15, 12 and 10 years ago among other things, one MRI report lists around 10 things wrong with my spine from degeneration to herniated disks, then in the summary states there is nothing wrong with my spine ...WTF! try getting a doctor to read a whole report, it is impossible, they only read the summary, even with the report in front of him he still insisted on nothing being wrong because the summary said so! so it is extremely important to get the reports accurate.

most importantly do not get verbally cross or anger around the SW as this is a green light to them that you lose temper around your kids. that is why letters expressing your concern about inaccuracies or incompetence are far better.

Last edited by yellowted; May 25, 2013 at 04:01 AM.