Yes, when we are with ourselves, it is all about us but when we are with others, they feel the same way about themselves? If you would have texted them in their individual houses when they went to the bathroom, that would be about you too and your wanting to be that connected to them. My husband does not check on me over time and we are retired and together all day every day.

I get up in the middle of the night and go downstairs for hours because I cannot sleep but he does not come check if he gets up to go to the bathroom or turn over, etc. A couple nights ago he did not come to bed and I went downstairs and all the lights were still on and he was at his computer and I thought all was normal but 15 minutes later he said, "I need some suggestions" and I thought he had a computer problem he was working on but, surprise surprise, he was bleeding and could not get it to stop! He'd been bleeding for a couple hours! I made my suggestion (ice cube, it took half an hour more and two ice cubes :-) and found an online doctor and paid $18 to ask about it, etc. but he was fine with the whole thing. I asked him not to wait that long next time.

You want the assurance more than your friends do. I would not reproach them or yourself, it's just what you like and you are allowed to like that and they are allowed to be as they are. Whether you are ill or not, there's not much they could do for you; if you had needed an ambulance you would/should say something, make your wishes known. If you want someone to check on you, say, "If I'm not back in 10 minutes, come check on me". They don't know you like to be checked on, they don't necessarily so they only have their own experience to go on.