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Originally Posted by Bloem
Accepting alters is difficult, that they are there seemed to be the only problem. Because they gave problems it was a fight a roller coaster of emotions. That I've forgot why they are there/here. Now there is some more calmness and space for everyone. Not all alters talk about fears and sadness but the little one does, not much but she speaks about what I want to forget. I did not realize that they also carry a painful story, my story, my trauma.
I thought I was wearing the painful story, but they wear pieces that I had forgotten or feelings I can not feel. I want to say 'that's not mine' stop talking about it, it hurts me.
I am afraid, can i handle this?
Some advice, support, experiences ?
Bloem
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question...before you were diagnosed were you able to handle being the way you are?
the reason I ask that is because many treatment providers in my life gave me this fantastic advice/tip......nothing has changed.. getting a diagnosis and finding out you have alters doesnt change the fact that they have been there all your life. All getting a diagnosis does is put a name on what already is..
talk with your treatment providers they can explain about DID and alters in a way that will show you theres nothing to be afraid of, nothing is going to happen now that hasnt already been happening since you were a very young child.. now that you know a name for the problem and know the alters are there, you can start getting better, fix those problems you have if you want to. (I say if you want to because as strange as it seems some people do elect to do nothing, just go on with their life problems and all, others decide to work on their problems and get better so that they dont have so many dissociative problems. only you can make that choice and only you know whether you can handle what you know now and what you will need to do in order to heal)