I end up feeling the same way at times. One time I was expressing those feelings to my friend who happens to also be a licensed marriage and family counselor. She said, "im taking off my "friend" hat and putting on my "therapist" hat for this reply". She continued, "some people are very self-absorbed and unaware of the needs of others. those people do not have the capacity to give back to you so your expectations for them need to be adjusted". She then went back to being my friend : ). But, what helps me, whenever I feel like I am being crapped on is to look at that person and just say to myself (in the words of my dear friend)..."this person does not have the capacity to give back to me right now". somehow it helps to know that the love i give out is just a gift and one that need not be returned. Of course, when you have a deeply compassionate heart, it is inevitable to give more than you take which unfortunately leaves people like us feeling hurt and unsupported or like doormats at times. I sure hope your feelings mend quickly. ~~~sending some supportive energy for you~~~
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