Wow, that is a hard thing for a parent to have to hear, and to think about happening to their baby girl.

Maybe this is a good time to sit down and have a nice, calm conversation about what happened and why she thinks it's ok to have gone through this??? Mind you the emphasis is on CALM...lol. I know it's not easy, but you will get absolutely nowhere if you don't stay calm. And that would ruin the whole idea behind it.

I think your daughter needs to know that you love her very much and you worry about her and the decisions she is making in her life. Maybe you could explain to her that you want her to feel safe, you want her to feel respect for herself and that you respect her. I think that would give her something to think about.

I know that kids experiment all the time. It's the way they learn and grow. We as parents, need to help them set boundries. Their brains are not developed enough yet to look at the big picture.

Maybe what is needed is more parental/adult supervision with the swimming. The same goes for the internet/computer. Could you and the other parents share the supervision thing on a rotating basis maybe?

I wish you strength and calmness!

Hugssssssss
Jean