rajeev,
Hi and Welcome to PC...I'm sorry to hear your sadness and even resignation... you are not necessarily doomed to this fate forever....

They say doctors make the worst patients.. I imagine this to be true of mental health professionals as well.And you know.. it is hard to take inventory of our own faults and problems and hang ups... so she is not going to be looking to herself as being part of the problem.

I wonder what advice she would offer to one of her patients who was acting the way she is.

She sounds insecure and afraid....and maybe even a little angry. maybe resentful... perhaps at her own family but she doesn't want to say so.... I would be resentful if my family mooched off of me and still disrespected me by disrespecting my husband...

I don't have answers.. I am really just talking out loud here to you.. giving you my thoughts.. what I know for sure is that life is short.. we only get one chance to live it and we should be doing all we can fill that life with love, laughter, and happiness.

I don't beleive this is your destiny... to be forever miserable... no God wants that for His people.... it just might be a long hard road to travel until the two of you figure this out.

I wish you the best! Faith