illiketherain, I have never had O durring sex. I have been married for 18 years, 19 next month. I have been w/ 3 different men. and that includes my H. I can achieve O alone but an a very reserved person and have issues about touching myself durring sex. Plus it just doesn't feel right. The way things work for O's don't seem to work the same way durring sex. I am a very guarded individual. I have a history of rape aswell. I don't know if that has any affect on my abilities or not.

Things seem to work fine solo, or when recieving oral, but not so good when penis is involved. Sex is quite meaningless to me. I agree with you. With out all the stars it is not exactly a worth adventure.