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Originally Posted by amandalouise
question...before you were diagnosed were you able to handle being the way you are?
the reason I ask that is because many treatment providers in my life gave me this fantastic advice/tip......nothing has changed.. getting a diagnosis and finding out you have alters doesnt change the fact that they have been there all your life. All getting a diagnosis does is put a name on what already is..
talk with your treatment providers they can explain about DID and alters in a way that will show you theres nothing to be afraid of, nothing is going to happen now that hasnt already been happening since you were a very young child.. now that you know a name for the problem and know the alters are there, you can start getting better, fix those problems you have if you want to. (I say if you want to because as strange as it seems some people do elect to do nothing, just go on with their life problems and all, others decide to work on their problems and get better so that they dont have so many dissociative problems. only you can make that choice and only you know whether you can handle what you know now and what you will need to do in order to heal)
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Thank you for you reaction.
Before I was diagnosed I had difficulties but I could handle myself because I did not know better, I was used to it. When I was diagnosed, I was told the same, nothing changed it has been given a name for something that was already there.
It is true that they were always there, but now I really know, and that they also have problems, emotions, memories, it is challenging for me and also a little scary. they came there for a reason, I know part of the reason and that is painful, because I know my trauma only they know things that I might want to forget and that scares me.
Yesterday I had an appointment with my T and I have discussed this subject.
She explained to me,for me to heal, other parts also need to work on their problems / trauma. This can be done through therapy but also through other things that works for them. It means that we sometimes will go through difficult things, but only if I want to. It's up to me I decide what I want and my wish is to integrate. That means I have to work hard and it will be a long process, and then it is not even sure if I will integrate, but I hope i will.
Again, thank you for your reaction
Liefs, Bloem