I really despise our health visitor for this. She gave me a choice on the surface, making it out to be additional support for my mh problems, making it sound as if it would be adult social services not children's. she's told them she has concerns for our children's welfare, but not once has she told us this, gutless wonder that she is. I'll be getting rid of her that's for sure. She's the first to take a hike. I will ask for a different health visitor. I am entitled to that.
Many people think the best way to get rid of social services is to cooperate with them. But, since they have referred us to what appears to be a more long term worker, I am put off greatly in cooperation because I see us never ridding them from our lives and them carrying on with their blatant lies. I could see this turning into child protection if they're allowed to carry on. They have a habit of throwing their weight around where it's unnecessary.
My question to them is - where the hell were they when I actually did need them as a teen when I was being put through abuse? Where was their 'help' then? They just left me. They left me with three grown men, at the age of 14, to be abused for a year and a half. And guess who's fault that was.. Mine! I still have every report from back then too and it is ALL blamed on me. Maybe I should have made better decisions, but I was a kid. I thought I knew best, then before I knew it I was trapped in one of the most nasty situations I've ever been in.
But, I survived this, along with other traumatic events that followed. I'm still here now, I look after my kids to the best of my ability and I am able. They don't want for anything, I'm not like my step daughters mum, if we're short for money we make sure our kids are fed and our bills are paid first, we go without if we have to and that's fine as long as they are not neglected. She on the other hand, would go out and spend her money on drink, drugs and tattoos before even buying food for her kids. Hence why her daughter now lives with us. That is the type of person they should be judging, not someone who's trying their best and clearly loves their kids. I would do ANYTHING for them.
It infuriates me to no end that I'm being judged simply because I have a mh problem. If I had no legs they wouldn't bat an eyelid. But because its something they don't fully understand, they think my kids are vulnerable because of it.
I'm not too sure where to go with this, I would very much like to tell them where they can stick their 'help'. I know this isn't the right way though, getting ****** with them. I will play it cool, as a cucumber, and tell them politely that we don't require their help. If that doesn't work, then I will make a complaint in writing. And I will continue to do so until someone listens to me. One thing I do know, I am definitely not letting this go. I'm not having them make me out to be evil mother of the year and get away with it.