My Pdoc has recommended ECT for me but I can't do it where I live without going inpatient which is not possible right now. So, I'm looking into Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS) and Transcranial Directed Current Stimulation(tDCS). TMS can still induce a seizure (rarely) and there have been incidences of short term memory loss but you can do it outpatient and without going under anesthesia.

tDCS is also and outpatient procedure without the risk of memory loss or seizures. It is in clinical trials right now. Checkout this link to see if any of e 167 studies might be open to you or near where you live Search of: tdcs - List Results - ClinicalTrials.gov. You sound pretty worried about ECT and the memroy deficits it may cause; maybe checking ou these ECT-lite versions first before taking the plunge might help you make a decision about ECT.