Thank you for your support and trying to help out with ideas. Honesty my nerves have been so shot that I can't barely remember to take my medications twice a day.
I have made some calls but there are a few more I can make. I'm holding off staying with my sister because I do not want to put any stress on her. She's a nurse and works 12's so she's exhausted all the time. But I am keeping that as a last resort.
We did agree to keep this civil. I am not making excuses for him , but if I don't keep my end of that what kind of karmic whiplash will result for me? I"ve been through one divorce before and it got pretty messy. I don't want to go through that again. I don't want to be a doormat either so idk.
This week will be the last week for me to figure out something. My landlord has a much cheaper place that might be open next week so I am waiting to hear from him. He's aware of my situation and knows I got left with everything to handle.
I will inquire about the resources for women in this situation. Maybe I can get some help on a few things.
I have already taken one small check from the church assoc. around here and it was not easy. I am an athiest and I feel like a hypocrit for leaning on a religious organization for help.
I'm going to keep trying.
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Originally Posted by healingme4me
Your husband isn't responsible for your health insurance?! I claused that into my divorce, I have MS, and that was something that was worded, that if he purposely left his employer, he'd still be responsible for MY health insurance. And Massachusetts doesn't play around, if he stiffs me or the kids, he pays or goes to jail.
My landlord, worked something out with me, to pay him weekly. In essence, the child support payments, which I made sure were immediately garnished from his paycheck, can't trust him to pay bills timely, are what pays the rent for me. Yes, I put my name on a waiting list, for low income vouchers, however, at the moment, rent is in no way covered by my employment. I do have a son who receives SSI, for his disability.
I do receive a small amount of food stamps. Electric is on the low income rate, however, that's not that huge of a difference. To start the payment plan, I needed to make a downpayment, that I can afford, just got behind, because my ex did stiff me with cable. Which I have cut back to internet only. He verbally promised there, but that's OK because when he went to buy the XBOX for the oldest's birthday, like promised, he discovered, I said, well, then, we are even now, aren't we, when he expected a half pay from me, on that . Which, in the winter months, just push back the electric, because it's illegal to cut off during winter months, hence, the payment plan now. It's about $30 more a month, to get me through the year, that was how I reworked that bill.
Is there an eviction on your chart? Is that why low income denied you? Was that through marriage?!
If divorce, is an option, a pro-bono attorney could clause a whole bunch of stuff in there, and perhaps try to clear up whatever credit was destroyed because you were married to a man that abandoned you and is obviously leaving you homeless and in a serious jam.
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