I'm sorry this happened to you Mel. At the risk of sounding weird or insensitive though, I think it's great you are able to get it out. I can feel your pain and anger and horror through your post and I admire it. It takes courage and strength to allow yourself to feel and remember. I haven't gotten there yet for myself -- a little bit, but not nearly all, and not for a long time now.
I think it is OK to cling to what is safe and loved now and I'm sure your hubby is OK with it too.
Safe ((((hugs)))) and PM if you want or need to talk -- I listen pretty well, even if I don't always have all the right answers.
Candy