iliketherain, I did have trouble at first with oral and O's, I still do. Sometimes it happens and sometimes it doesn't. I don't know why. (I do take meds that make it harder to achieve O, but I know when to avoid taking them so O cam happen, if it is gonna happen.)

I know that I have performance anxiety when I am not alone, Weather or not "IT" happens affects how my partner feels about my opinion of him sexually and as far as security goes to. That is generally true in relationships, but not in my case. It just makes me have performance anxiety and that is a no win situation for anyone.

EJ thank you for that book suggestion, I may have to look into that.