I am a 39 yr old married female. I have no sex drive. I used to but the meds killed it. But still yet I do about twice a month.When planned correctly, I can avoid my meds and things work fairly well. I hove my toys they are all involve clitoral simulators. I use these with my H when It feels as if it "just ain't gonna happen". Sometimes I am so frustrated and exausted I don't even get the toys out, I just let my H have his fun.

But that was not your question, your question was how often. And my answer is 2 times a month max. I can go months with out, or as little as a few weeks. H and I try to make time for sex once a week. It is not the most rewarding thing for me. but he does kinda like it.