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Originally Posted by poptart316
So I have a boyfriend, we just became official a few days ago but I'm having doubts. Stupid little things are irritating me.. like the way he dresses, the way he looks without his beard, the fact that he's balding, how he listens to Daft Punk, how he says he loves me, how we don't really talk or do anything when we hang out.
I think what really bothers me is that he's nice, I'm don't normally do "nice".. I like assholes with a negative worldview and that's totally not him. He's nice and sweet and makes me feel good but none of that turns me on, I'm having a hard time getting turned on.. attraction isn't totally absent, it just isn't intense, there's no passion.
What should I do? I haven't been able to get this off of my mind all day.
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It's not just you, many ladies do have a hard time getting to like a really good guy and choose some bad guys to be with instead just because they are more attracted to them. They even have a saying " guys are of 2 kinds - some are nice and some are the ones we like". Of course, it would benefit you if you get involved with someone "nice" on the long run if you are looking for a serious relationship because you will be secure and he will care for you and treat you well. But if the attraction is not there, it won't make you happy to be around that person, I'm afraid.. Yet, if you think he's a good person on the overall, maybe you could first discuss those issues you don't like about him with him, and see if he might change some of his ways and habits for you. And if even that doesn't help you to feel more attracted to him, I guess he's just not the one for you..