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Originally Posted by worknonit80
Thanks for the words. I wonder if their could be some kind of transference going on. Yes she is attractive. Something I'm noticing is all. I'm glad I have a straight female as my T and then again NOT! At least with a lesbian I wouldn't feel like this is all brand new world for her. Since she has asked the "Have you slept with men question", I find myself wanting to spout back " HAVE YOU EVER SLEPT WITH a WOMAN"....ughhh....its just a reaction. The last thing a lesbian wants to here coming from a straight girl she barely knows....Is, have you ever slept with a man.....usually that gets an extremely fowl look from me. LOL. I don't know, I like her, I loath her. I definately need to know to see if she is cool with gays? Then I'll want to know if supports equal rights and gay marriage. Ahhh....and it goes on and on. I want to make sure we are comfortable with each other. I will try asking her all this next week. Try being the key word there. Therapy IS SOOOOO HARD~!
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It IS so hard! I know! My issue was this - Being bi, I've received a lot of ridicule from both sides (Straight and Gay people). My T doesn't know that I know she's a lesbian (I picked up on it right away, but how I found out for sure is a long story, it wasn't even on purpose). When I came out to her as bisexual I said
]"well, I've had relationships with both men and women" she said
"I know." I said
"you doo???" She said
"yea, I've been 99.9 percent sure for a long time now." I was kind of expecting her to be like
"Well, I'm gay" (or something lol) but she didn't. We speak about equal rights, LGBT things....even romantic/sexual relationships with other women, and how they differ from men. Yet, she STILL hasn't come out with it. She has hinted, like
"you can ask me anything you want, and I promise I will not be offended. Anything." and I'll say things like
"You know, there are some things that I've figured out about you." (It doesn't sound nearly as creepy when put into context lol) and she'll smile and say
"I'm sure you have." But, it always makes me kinda wonder how she REALLY feels about Bisexual people (the real ones, not the attention seeking drunk girls
)
I do have transference issues with my T though. We've talked about it here and there. Talk about embarrassing.
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