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Originally Posted by Anne2.0
I'm sorry, but I don't know how you can know her, or anyone's honest intentions more than they can. Is it possible that everyone can leave this alone? I think this is a destructive dynamic, calling people out and making them "prove" what their Dear T posts are all about.
So what if someone does make a comment on a post or thread? I have seen this happen elsewhere on this forum, and no one bats an eye. I read the couch sometimes and people are discussing other threads and/or other posters on occasion. Why not just let people have their say here and move along or don't read, if it's something that irritates you?
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I, personally, would prefer to know when someone has a reaction to me (instead of it being said behind my back or in passive aggressive veiled ways), so that I have the opportunity to explore it - see if it fits or not, see if it has value, etc. - and, if I value the relationship, be given the opportunity to work through it with them. (Of course, within certain limits.)
Sometimes people aren't aware of their behavior and how it affects other people. And unfortunately, many times, people don't want to know.
I find that there are times when I consider posting on this thread - feeling vulnerable, struggling and wishing to express something to my T - but then find myself feeling nauseous and guarded because of how I see it being used. I'm disappointed that some believe that anything goes as long as you slap a "dear T" in front of it.