Wink
Here is what I have learned and what I am trying to beat into my own thick skull.. All the thoughts and feelings about how everyone would be better without me around, the self loating , self hate< etc etc .... Well that is all from the illness, The typical person with a mental illness (or whatever you feel comfortable calling it ) are much harder on themselves than anyone else around us would be. I will beat my self up for hours , days even ! over something that doesnt really matter and noone else would give it a second thought.
So Moral of the story , Cut yourself some slack, find ways to self sooth instead of beating yourself up and reach out for help and support where ever you can find it.
Everything changes , maybe not today or tomorrow but the cycles change eventually.
Self care is one of the most important things you can do for you