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Old Jun 04, 2004, 12:24 AM
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I had a very very bad experience with the first home I tried to buy, the homeowners screwed me and I lost quite a bit of money... not to mention the house I had been planning to move in to.

Every day I thought seriously about going out in the middle of the night and setting that house on fire. It was of course something I would never do but there was just so much incredible anger built up in me.

I did know that eventually the anger would pass, it did, and I found a new home much better and even less expensive than that one. I didn't beat myself up about those horrible "urges" I had because I knew they were just built up anger and that acting on anything would just make everything 100 times worse.

Especially given the proactive actions you have begun, I know that you know the whole point is to collect evidence on them and to keep yourself as "clean" as possible so they never have anything to throw back at you. You know if there came a time to take them to court or have them arrested, how could you do so guiltlessly if you were also partaking in harrassment against them, no matter how seemingly justified.

But as long as you know these are just "fantasies" I personally don't think there is anything wrong with imagining such things as a form of venting steam. If these ideas start to overpower you then I'd maybe seek some help or advice just for your own welfare, you don't want these ideas to be something bothering you for a long time. But in the short run I think thinking of revenge is natural.

The MOST important thing is that you weren't hurt, even though it is appauling and frightening that they made contact with you. That was way way over the line on their part, but the emotional stress they put you through you can and are working through.

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