Saw nobody posted to you and wanted to reply. I am so sorry you are going through this. My mother and grandmother have mental illness like me but they never took meds and were out of control growing up. I wish I had some advice but at this point I think the medical staff would be able to help you best.

Sorry I could not be of more help. I hope you find good support on this site. I would say it may help you guys a lot to see a lot to see a counseler together to help you through it that can be a great help for family.