I took the swine/pearl reference not so much that she was calling her friend a swine, but the expression of the whole experience. Maybe the experience was swine, not the person.
I didn't see this as anyone being 'completely' in the right or wrong. But as a healing journey, she went through, so to speak.
A heartfelt letter, that's what she posted about. It came with a negative response, that in turn led her to realize, that rekindling that friendship wasn't in her best interest, was how I took this original posting.
In sharing this, I found it spoke to me, and seemed to speak to others.
There are some of us, here, who have had that old relationship, come back to the surface. And had to make amends with our pasts and present in some way, shape or form.
I found it very mature and adult of her to write a heartfelt letter. And though the outcome wasn't to be desired, she was courageous enough to share this experience, for the sake of sharing.
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Originally Posted by Inedible
Not exactly. I am saying that it would be fairly ... superficial ... for us all to assume that Seeker1950 is completely in the right and that her ex really is swine. In the absence of complete information none of us here is qualified to judge.
It may be nice to hold the moral high ground, but often it isn't the most productive place to stand. It can easily just result in a large gap in communication.
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