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Originally Posted by Leed
Hi Sammie ~ Give her some time. I'm sure she is wanting to take this very slowly, after her divorce, just a YEAR ago. Most therapists will tell you to wait at LEAST a year before dating and getting serious again after a divorce. You need that time to get your head together, and to know what you REALLY want.
She may NOT know what she wants, really. She said she wants kids -- but she may not really be SURE about that.  She's 35 yrs old, and having a child at 35 isn't as easy as it sounds.  When the child is 10 yrs old, and wants to play, she'll be 45!  Bodies aren't the same anymore. LOL
Plus the time between dates -- she's probably trying to figure out how she feels; what her emotions are trying to tell her -- how she feels about you. She doesn't want to go on a rebound!!! And by seeing you more often would likely make her make a bad decision. She needs time to figure things out, and having time between dates is a good idea. That way she WON'T just jump into this relationship with all 4 feet.
So give her time. Chances are things will be okay -- but even if they aren't, you'll know that she was honest about everything. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee |
Haha. I know I need to take it slow but it seems so hard to do. I like her and just want to get to know her better and see if there is actually something there. It seems like we have pretty good connection when we are together. It is just all the other stuff that you talk about which either bonds people or helps them make the decision that it is not right.
I get that she ended her marriage not that long ago and that actually sent me thinking when I first found out and everyone told me to forget it. I have a fear of being her rebound absolutely. At the same time I also have a fear of not really getting a chance to do this right because we are so distant when we are not together.
I know calling her is not the right thing to do but it is what I want to do
Not to be naggy or clingy just to talk and see who she really is. It is odd having some feelings for someone you know so little about and not knowing how they actually feel. I suck at waiting and just going with the flow.
Any advice on how to handle that part better? I do not really like to date a lot of people and would also not want to give the impression that I am some kind of player. I also know by not giving her the space she needs nothing good will come of it. Just hard to get my mind off of it when we have such great times together.