I see so many of these types of thread. "He smokes pot/ drinks alcohol/ doesn't have a gym membership/ is incredibly involved with some hobby I have no interest in/ was previously married/ is very busy with school/ etc. Is it a problem?'

My answer is usually, "I don't know. Is it?" And if it is, "Is it enough of a problem that it's a deal breaker?" Some people handle things better and others have a more difficult time with balance and moderation. It's not just about them either. There are certain things that I wouldn't put up with (such as smoking cigarettes), but another girl might not be bothered by that.

I think the best advice you got is that this is the honeymoon period. He's going to try to look good for you, and you're probably going to be more forgiving of faults that you see. Don't get swept so head over heels that you stop seeing the situation for what it is. Hopefully everything works out for the best. If a problem arises, be aware of it, then deal with it - whether it involves pot or something else.