Trying myself to screen what I say. I have so many ways of talking and understand how you might feel it is simple to talk to outsiders and very hard to do that with others.

(In close contacts)-I just started to say stuff to them that they will understand and in the gut [by some weird fidgiting or their wrincked farhead or weird look back at me]when they can't well understand the conversation ,than I stop in my tracks. I just got more savvy and now my freindships are better with no more big disasters. (I learned past summer when I was too loose with sharing words with a man[and i wasn't reading the facial expression clues from him that i made him uncomfortable or he just couldn't get what i was talking about cause he wasn't that kind of personality to get my stuff!)

So I stay narrow for who each man is( or any close friends too). He won't see stuff that "he calls crap." Nothing is "crap" but men, seem to think differently or I shoud say the logical sides of all people see stuff as crap. So i just moniter it and have good luck, I have more friends now---finally!

(conversing with close men friends now is better because I watch facial expressions more often) [also with my girlfriends too. ] I know talking to absolute strangers makes it real easy and limitless to misbehve (talk goofy)

Hope you aren't insulted by my posting. It was just my experience. I wasn't saying you talked crap. I just was saying I sometimes do. Please forgive the insult, I really didn't mean anything, but was abrupt , probably ; shouldn't have ; it was rude actually and I was just trying to help you, so no harm intended to you.

You can have great close ones too, just slow down, try, and it will be fine. (oh and i keep it on their level and when i forget, i just stop and change my subject to something they won't think is too outlandish. ) [since i have b.p. as well as being mild aspergers i struggle a great great deal with the issue you shared and suffered ]

Please forgive me if my post went way in some wrong direction. Razeljenny- Thanks...