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Old May 27, 2013, 10:27 PM
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Welcome to PC, Flesh. I agree with Payne - if you haven't already acknowledged to her that you're struggling with certain aspects of the relationship, you may want to, if it's a relationship worth holding onto. I really struggled in the beginning of my current partnership. Anxiety, panic, fear of abandonment, fear that she would be unfaithful, jealousy, envy, insecurity...you name it, I had it. And sorry to say it, lasted about a year. I have a bad track record with relationships and turned out I needed that long to work on my stuff. But in the meantime, we talked about it - constantly - and I owned it as my own, and tried my damnedest not to project it onto her. It DOES get better. You just have to give yourself a chance and give the relationship a chance, and find people to talk to and process with: friends, professionals, your girlfriend, whomever. Can't heal by keeping it all inside, in my experience. Good luck with it all. Hope you find the support you need.
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Thanks for this!
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