I don't blame you for being angry. I would be too, especially if she didn't even want to go to marriage counseling. That just doesn't seem fair. You get blind-sided, and then she basically doesn't want to talk about what is the matter! Do you even KNOW what she's upset about?

As for the kids -- to them, this is just an adventure! A "new home" - wow!! And they each get their own room -- wow! They think this is cool, right NOW. But give it awhile, and it won't be so "cool" anymore because YOU aren't there. That's going to make a difference to them, my friend. They're going to want Daddy. Believe me -- it WILL happen. Wifey won't tell you of course, but it WILL happen. Hopefully the kids will tell you how much they miss you when they see you.

And make sure you still spend time with your friends. DO NOT LET THE WIFE take them over! She's going to probably tell them a bunch of lies, like you beat her or some stupid thing. MY ex told MY friends a bunch of CRAP -- and my friends actually BELIEVED him, without even talking to Me! Consequently, I never saw them anymore! Couldn't get ahold of any of them, or else they just wouldn't take my calls -- don't know which. How's that for "friends?" Now I don't give a #$#%$ about them -- if they won't even get MY side of it. They were MY friends in the first place, but he was one EVIL man.

Keep posting here my friend. It does you good to get this stuff out. And we're always here to listen too. I just don't "get" your wife.

Hope you start feeling better soon. Talk to you soon. Hugs, Lee