I think it's a very sane decision that you've taken.

Can't you both read something on the risks on dependency, so that when the moral is low you can rely on good words to know that you are doing the right thing?

And you are, you know? you definitely are doing the right thing.
when you are dependent you are not really choosing. You just stick to your dependency. You and your GF must be able to live as self, before being a couple.

Try and build your own self, self- esteem, self-worth. Self.
Who are you, what do you want, where are you going and how are you getting there. All these are big questions to answer to not only to keep yourself busy but to focus on your lovely, important, unique self