Prior to marriage, I had not been very sexually active. It was a choice I made as my first experience was not a good one. It therefore was important to me to not be involved with someone who was very active and had a ton of experience.
I fell in love and did ask the appropriate questions to see if I felt comfortable with her past before taking things to the next step.
I did, and her answers reassured me at that time. Fast forward 14 years of marriage later and I find out she had a FFM threesome and she told me casually through a text.
It makes me sick to think of her this way. It also is no big deal to her and she swears she thought I already knew of this.
To me it is brand new information and I can't help but feel that I have been wronged by her.
I had been comfortable with a lack of experience and now I feel that I will never have the wild time with my wife that she already experienced with another man. I had no desire to have this type of experience until I found out she did this with and for another man.
This has left me very upset. I am hopeful that others have experienced this sort of thing and understand how it makes me feel.