Arthemis, I don't have anything much to add that hasn't already been said, only I think your husband just doesn't understand the benefits because he has never been to therapy but I also agree that maybe he is scared of the new you. You can now say that you can spend money if you need too, this I think is what is annoying him and scaring him. The fact that you are finally taking care of your needs instead of his. Don't be made to feel guilty about wanting one thing for yourself- you deserve this