I come from a dysfunctional family. My mom is depressed and alcoholic, my dad has low self-esteem and is codependent, everyone is passive aggressive. I had emotional abuse and neglect as a kid and was made to take care of my parents' feelings.

Recently I tried to set better boundaries with my parents. My mom is always using my dad to get to me. I often get emails from him saying that my mom wants me to do something or my mom wants to tell me something and I just hit a breaking point on Mother's Day when my dad told me my mom was expecting a message from me.

I spoke to my therapist and she said I could tell my parents that if they want something from me they can come to me directly and not go through the other parent. I did that, and I guess I did let myself get a little too angry but that's natural considering anger wasn't ok in our family so I have decades of anger that wants to come out. My dad didn't respond. My mom responded with a manipulative calculated answer trying to sound sweet but essentially telling me that I'm wrong for feeling that way and that everything she's doing is just fine. I got angry with her again and she hasn't responded since then. It's been 2 weeks and still no response.

I'm wondering where to go from here? I'm sick of parenting them and I'm loath to be the one to reach out to them again. I know they're not mad at me they're just scared of me. They're scared of any kind of strong emotion or negative emotion (thus why I wasn't allowed to have my emotions as a kid). Should I just wait til they contact me?