the real question is what draws YOU to a woman like this, that you would ask for approval for a relationship you clearly know is dsyfunctional...

have you heard that old saying: "to have love you must give love" ? do you think this person would be giving you love? do you think you could sustain love for a person who acts like that? what is in this relationship for you?

really, i would encourage you to spend some time on self-examination. i learned that we, people, are "imprinted" at a very young age (pre-verbal, like year one) to desire a mate like our parent. this conditioning is rarely recognized and even less often is it overcome. you might inquire what your parents, especially your mother, was like when you were an infant. how did she bond with you, what kind of health was she in, how was the relationship with your father ? things like that. you may be astonished to find you are trying to fix your mother still.

best wishes,,
Gus