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Originally Posted by LearningMe01
Spend time thinking about T. I am going to make a conscious effort to put her out of my mind. Mindfulness, that's what they teach us, right? I will no longer waste my time, energy or tears on someone who does not do the same (on anything other than a therapeutic level.)
Uuugh. I can't believe I fell into this "trap". I know it's common, but I thought I could give myself a little more credit than that. Apparently not.  |
Double hugs, LearningMe
(make that triple)
I still think about mine every day but for some reason this week the insane transference feelings have eased off. I only just posted last week that they were doing my head in, I thought I was absolutely LOSING ITl
Today I feel much more rational. I have realized that I:
1. am not in love with her
2. love her as a therapist (a lot)
3. don't want to be her friend.
This, for me, is BIG, and I don't know how long it will last. Of course when I go see her in exactly two hours, things may change. But I am glad I have experienced less obsessiveness and less painful lovelorn-ness, if only for a short while.
Don't know why it's so complicated.
again