Wikid - this is just a thought I had when reading about the rain. Could you, or have you tried, looking at your own mother like your MIL would do, just to see how it felt to you? It sometimes seems, and this is just an idea and I know you have good reason for how you feel about your mother, that you respond to your mother like your mother does to rain, or the other stuff. I am not sure if it would work, but it might be worth a try.