I have been married for 16 years. I have felt emotionally dead for the most part, just going through the motions for years now. I work 2 jobs, have 2 kids, and do ALL the cleaning, running, you name it for the family. I could make this thread very long and detailed, but will spare you. My husband and I have very little, if anything in common. He goes to the bar and hangs out with his buddy or sits and watches tv or is on the computer most of the time, while I take care of everything else. I turned 40 this year, which to me is no big deal, but on my birthday, made the decision I was done. I signed a lease on an apt and move out this weekend. My husband seems to think I am going through midlife crisis and am wrecking our family. Once, because of an issue with our daughter, I told him that he wins and I won't move out. I immediately felt sick to my stomach and felt more of me dying? Is that a sign? I have since told him I have changed my mind and feel happier and liberated. I think I am doing the right thing...but there is a twist..an old friend (yes, there is an attraction there, but has never turned into a relationship) has appeared back into my life. I know deep in my heart that even if he had not appeared, I would still be leaving. My husband thinks I am having a midlife crisis and want to "see what's out there" and possibly explore a relationship with said friend. Am I reading myself right and know that I am truly unhappy in this marriage or I am unconsciously having a midlife crisis????