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Originally Posted by tiggerandcrew
What helps me is to remember the hell they went through and why they were created. They got me through the trauma that I probably could not have coped with. It was the only way my mind could pull me through it. They took my place so that I could survive. For years I could forget some of the horid stuff but they kept it for me. Now as much as I would like to get rid of some stuff I don't want to face, I look at them and can not give more for a small child to handle. I figure it is time for me to start protecting and helping them just like I would a small neighbor child or my own child. I take at least some time each day to talk to each and either play or work with them. I don't like remembering or feeling what I had forgotten but better me than that internal child that has gone through so much and protected me in the past so well.
This is just the view I have come to take and is working very well for me.
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Pretty much the way we see it.
"I" ignored for 40 years, but everything has limits and everything came flooding out. Always knew about Timmy, our 5 year old, as he was "ever present. That means not so much out or talk about what happened, but not letting me forget either.
Our system is unique and though we don't have a gatekeeper to control who comes out when, we manage because we know about each other, talk to each other and see each other (inside that is).
Parts, alters, (whatever you choose to call them) came "into being" (yeah, they were there all along, but "unknown") one at a time and we are very often co-conscious (thankfully) so don't lose a lot of time. This does not mean that we are just a happy family couse they do pop out and then "I" am inside in the dark losing time and money they are spending and and and.....
okay, ranting, sorry.....