I could say a lot about what you've just written, having come across rather a lot of Ts who subscribe to the cookie cutter approach, but as my abysmal attempts at typing are showing me, I've had one too many rums to be anything remotely resembling coherent .

So just posting to say I hear you NTLF and really sympathize with how you're feeling and thinking .

Have you thought at all of looking for another T, or has this experience completely turned you against the idea? (not that stupid a question really, as sometimes it helps to have a T help you get over the damage a former T has done.)

xxx