To pioneer new frontiers you have to break the established institutionalism of contemporary psychology and be an unashamed activist on behalf of the patient. Some therapists may lose licenses in the process.
There are losses in any reformation but there are also gains.
Many things can be done within the current framework.
Such as replacing words like resistant with words like caution.
The therapeutic relationship feels so synthetic.
The great intervention is so obvious to me...

Get the patient to suspend their disbelief in the cautious stage.
Encourage idealizing fantasy and transference.
Threaten the relationship (in my case)
Get the patient to rise to defend the great relationship that they were encouraged to create.
Remind the patient of the past failed relationship and abandon them.(in my case)
This will force the patient to choose the better imagined future over the terriblr realities of their past relationships and produce lasting change that has better outcomes.

At this point the therapist says, "I did my best."

Sometimes, it backfires.
All the patient sees themself as is a textbook collection of disorders rather than a unique individual with unique experiences.
How about a unique approach for a unique person that fits them like a finely tailored suit.

I like my old suit better. It fit.

Pour water into a cup, it becomes the cup, into a vase it becomes the vase.

Psychology was poured into me finding a malformed vessel.
It was easier to live in obscurity or the attic so to speak than to have all eyeson me staring at me psychologically disrobed .

Imagine going skinny dipping with the person you trust the most and the person you trust gets out of the water and steals your clothes and leaves you their naked.
Would you ever go skinny dipping again?

Now imagine them enjoying not regretting what they've done to you.
The second condition is worse than the first.

That is my therapy.