Almost 2 1/2 years ago I moved from Seattle to the east coast, with my son and my now husband, for my husband's job.We chose to move to make a better life for ourselves. Since the move my mother has only spoken to me a handful of times. We've never been especially close, but it seems like she really resents me for moving away. I don't understand the resentment because we only really saw each other a few times a year when I lived there.

When I lived in Seattle I had a fairly successful career as a chef and I constantly got grief about working too much, putting my career before my family, not staying home with my son for a year after he was born, and on and on. I never understood why she couldn't just be happy for me or proud of my success especially after I got divorced and became a single parent. She's been married and divorced 3 times, I figured she'd be more sympathetic.

I became a stay at home mom when we moved so that I could spend more time with my son. Now it seems as though she resents the fact that I don't have to work. Whenever I speak to my mother she finds ways to take jabs at my life one way or another while praising my siblings that haven't done anything with their lives. I have a sister that is a single mother of a 8 month old that doesn't work or do anything. She just lives off of tax payer's $$.
Every time I've spoken to my mother since the baby was born she makes sure to let me know that my sister is an amazing mother for being at home and not working all the time. If I get my hair cut she says she liked it longer, when I color it she says she liked it lighter/darker (whatever is the opposite of what it is), etc. The last time that I sort of spoke with her was Christmas, but she made it clear she only wanted to speak to my son and not me. Whenever I speak to my sisters they tell me that she says terrible things about me. She says that I'm snobby and I think I'm better than everyone. She's convinced a couple of my sisters that I am this way too. I'm 95% sure that I am not like that at all. We speak less and less just because I can't deal with the constant passive agressive insults. I kind of want to cut her out of my life completely but I feel like that would also end a few other relationships with family members as well.

I've really never done anything but be a good daughter to her. It's especially hurtful because I'm the only child that she treats this way. Do I need this toxic person out of my life? Why does she dislike me so much? How do I stop caring about this nonsense?