I think ideally, in theory, 'detaching' is something that is supposed to occur naturally as you put therapy into practice, take control of your life, build better relationships outside of therapy, and gradually wind down sessions?

Here's hoping, anyway. Right now I'm in about the same boat as you - the thought of not seeing my T is unbearable. I'm not ready to wind anything down yet - even though my moods are better and I'm starting to put my life back together. I still need my T's support. Sometimes I think I need the relationship with her more than I feel I need 'therapy'... for me I guess it IS a large part of the therapy.

If attachment is part of the childhood development, surely we just need time to grow up?