(((Honeybee)))
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I am so sorry for your loss, and for what position you are in. and for the confusion.

I am not sure if this would be helpful or not but
The jail that your brother is in, is there any one to talk to, to ask if a visit could be arranged that would be more personal with you and him? He is on his way to recovery, is there a person that he has mentioned/some what "mentor" of the staff that has helped him out? that maybe you could talk to?
Some staff in prisons are nice.

I agree to take care of you as well

many hugs and good thoughts your way