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Originally Posted by ja22383
I also am very confrontational. I have confronted her a few times. She never answers my questions, she just finds some reason to hang up the phone or leave. I think her thinking that I am better than everyone stems from the confrontations that we've had. As if I must feel superior to have the nerve to confront her. As for my siblings, one is married, one is divorced, and one has a child but is single.
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It may not be very feasible for you to do since you live so far away, but I think the best thing would be a face-to-face interaction. Phone calls can help, but it's very easy for your mother to get out of those. Emails and text messages would only make things worse, because they allow her to lash out at you, while ignoring any or all of your messages and attempts to talk about the real issues.
Alternatively, if there's someone you trust very much, whom she also trusts, and lives relatively close to your mother, perhaps a third party would help as well. If she honestly trusts them, and they attempt to discuss things in a sensitive manner, perhaps they'd be able to extract your mother's true feelings about you. That is the first step - knowing what all her issue is. Once that's identified, you can then begin to address her concerns and issues, in a sensitive manner of course.