I'm sorry, granite - I know it's horribly hard when people you care about are hurting and you don't know what's going on or what to do to help. I did have T today. It was rather horrible, and I felt as if he was really frustrated with me all the time, without actually telling me so. When he said my time was up I bolted out of the chair and ran downstairs without saying anything. That was in the middle of a discussion about whether he reassures me too much, when I just wanted to yell at him "Yes you do reassure me too much, because I am a despicable human being who deserves no reassurance at all!" - but of course that would sound like I was fishing for reassurance, so I simmered and said nothing.