We are both about 24.

I highly doubt it was an emotional affair because I really don't think she ever had actual feelings for him. But she definitely had an emotional dependency on him. I don't think she understands how to control her feelings, or how anything she does affects my feelings. I really don't feel like she has or tries to have an emotional connection with me. Not so much that she doesn't think that it's important, but more the fact that I don't think she understands the necessity of it or what it really means.

No, I would really push the issue to divorce if I feel she does not learn and continues to emotionally abuse me. Divorce would utterly shatter me, as I love my beautiful little 7 month old baby girl more than I can possibly imagine. I was so hopelessly in love with my child (don't take that the wrong way) when she was born, and still am. I would do anything for her, and it really pierces and hurts me when she bonks her head and gets hurt, or cries. I know that is irrational, but I cannot help but love my daughter with such an intense love even I cannot fathom.

Financially, I am in no position for a divorce; that would hurt me badly and really subjugate or endanger my financial/educational future. And as much as a divorce would destroy me because of my desire to be with my daughter, I would choose to go that route and subject myself to all the pain, because I am not willing to endure a potentially toxic relationship that I don't believe in.

Right now I am just searching for support and any advice at all that there might be hope for us, and what specifically that hope is. Thanks for listening.