I was just reading last week that the experience of rejection (which I think is pretty analogous to T relationships, although they technically studied romantic relationships) activates the same areas of the brain as a severe physical injury. Of course it hurts bad. I couldn't find the exact article I was reading, but here's a close substitute:

The pain of social rejection

From my perspective, adding more pain on top of what is already normal to feel, risks your physical and emotional health. The pain research suggests that feeling pain activates the neural pathways for pain, which is why when pain in not controlled, people can still experience pain months after a physical healing. I was in this situation with post surgery pain for almost 9 months, and I guess I can tell you that now is the time to baby your pain, to treat it with kindness and tenderness, not add to it. You don't deserve to be hurt any more.