I would roughly consider us to be in severe financial need. I have no job, she has no job, I’m paying for full-time college education, we’re living off our savings to support her, I, and our beautiful baby, and luckily we’re living at my parents’ place. I also have a very restrictive budget that I impose on us, so I can understand her need for her own money, and why she found it very difficult to turn down the man’s offer to take her shopping and buy us things we need (or so he said, he also offered to buy her really expensive shoes, the ****). I don’t want that man’s help and especially not considering it will damage my wife and I’s relationship more, and his offer still fills me with disgust and rage.

I don’t think she has a problem with being giving. She is a very giving person; she is good at making crafts and things with her hands and has made wonderful gifts for my family members for Christmas and birthdays. She used to be quite giving to me; that has declined, though she does still sew up holes in my pants and such. I think her bent morals are more a product of her naivety and not understanding other people’s feelings. She can act like quite a young girl at times, wanting her wants and needs to be met but not realizing - or ignoring - the needs and wants of others. For example, last summer she was in the middle of the pregnancy. She was constantly pestering to have the thermostat down to keep her cool, because she didn’t want our baby to get too hot and get brain damage. What ended up happening is the rest of the family (not me since I am gone all the time) were cold because the temperature was too low for them. Naturally my wife’s body heat was higher than normal because of the extra person inside of her. It is fine to worry for the health of your child, but she did so in a way that was insensitive and frankly, offensive, to those around her.

I'm sure the baby has all the milk it needs from the amount my wife sells to the mother. Each time she drives up here to buy some, the supply my wife sells her usually lasts her about a month, maybe a little over. I can't say for sure whether or not the mother also supplements with formula.

Sorry, it is the Mormon church. Formally, "The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints".

I should have given more context. My wife is not naturally a violent person, at least not to me, that was the first time she ever hit me. We were fighting and I made the comment that she reminds me so much of her mother. She despises the correlation and I knew that, her mother is screwed up and frankly screwed up the childhood (and lives to an extent) of her and all her siblings. But I meant what I said, she truly was exhibiting some behaviors her mother has, and she punched me on the shoulder while I was laying down on the bed because of how greatly it offended and angered her. This is compounded with the hurt she was dealing with from Mother’s Day (again, another story but I don’t feel I am totally in the wrong there either, she expects a perfect Mother’s Day unconditional from how poorly she may treat me in the days leading up to). So I understand why she hit me. It didn’t really even hurt physically, but it hurt my feelings that she would actually resort to that, when she never has before. I believe her actions were more a retaliation of the hurt she felt and not a purely malicious intent towards me. Regardless, there are issues surrounding why she felt hurt and I recognize those, but she needs to recognize how she’s hurt me as well.

Yes, exactly. She should have definitely asked me before posting the ad, or at least told me that she was going to before doing it, so I would have time to voice my opinion. Frankly, this is the smaller issue. My memory sometimes fizzles some facts and she might very well have gotten my word before posting the ad, but I cannot remember. I do not think she did; regardless, moving on.

Yes, precisely! The fact that she permitted to engage in such questionable (and offensive) subject matter with someone who she should’ve had a business-only relationship with. She says she is committed to me, and I believe her intentions are good, but I do not think she knows what it means to truly be committed to someone. I don’t think she understands what is and is not appropriate in marriage. The marriage of her parents is the complete opposite of an appropriate role. She prides herself on being an “open-minded Mormon” which, ironically, was one of the things that attracted me to her, but there are certain interpersonal relationship skills which she has not learned in going through life, and certainly didn’t learn it in her messed up childhood. I have talked to her about how she’s allowed him to carry on such disturbing conversations with her, and she defends by saying she wants to have open conversations with him and be open and comfortable to discussing anything, praising his curiosity. Which I find utterly sickening! Being open-minded is one thing, but there is no necessity, whatsoever, at having open conversations with a business partner! She doesn’t need to be his ****ing friend!

When he initially contacted her, her told her the milk was for nutritional benefits, and were for his workouts and training. I can’t really say whether or not that is true, but I think it’s undeniable that he was getting a huge sexual thrill off the whole thing.

My wife did talk to me about possibly selling to a man before she agreed to sell to him, and pained me very much, but after much thought, reluctantly I agreed. I knew how much pain she was in being cooped up at home all the time, not feeling like she has a life or that she is even loved or valued. I hated to see my wife in such a miserable state, so as painful as it was to consider this new disturbing development, I agreed to let her.

Thank you again for your kind and supportive words, you and everyone else.