The way he is acting, I believe he hasn't gotten over his ex. If she demands that they stay in constant contact, I think she wants him back.

I think he's confused about his feelings for her. He hasn't even gotten divorced yet, has he? And if he hasn't why NOT?? If he hasn't divorced her, he must still have feelings for her, and he's confused. He MIGHT still care for her.

You're in a bad spot. If I were you, I'd ask him to make a choice. It's either YOU or her. One or the other, but he can't have both. Tell him that he should either get divorced, or else go back to her, but you don't want to live with someone else's husband! And that's what you're doing! If he's separated, you're still living with HER HUSBAND.

I wish you the very best -- but if it were me, I'd look for someone who could REALLY love me the way i deserved. And you deserved to be REALLY LOVED and cherished completely. He may have mental problems, and if he does then he should get counseling. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee