I am in love with a man who is emotionally unavailable. I have been seeing him on and off for about three years now. He has a lot of issues. He was not treated well by his parents, ended up being raised by his grandparents for the majority of his life, was betrayed by women in the past, etc. He keeps me at arm's length most of the time and I never know when I will see him.

He has severe paranoia and depression, and never leaves his house. He recently quit his job, saying he didn't want to work nights anymore. He hasn't found another job and his savings is quickly evaporating. I worry about him but I also worry about myself.

In the past, I have gotten frustrated with him and tried dating other people. I have dated at least a dozen guys since I met him but every time I leave them or cheat on them with him. I don't want anyone else, I want him. I can only think of him. Everyone else seems like a joke to me when I compare them to him.

I don't know what to do.. Do I wait? Do I confront him about his behavior? Do I try to move on? I have tried cutting myself off from him, moving on, even moving away, all in attempts to get over him. It's all been in vain and I don't want to get over him, in any case. I just want to help him.