Interesting that you want to know why your wife left & will never know....I have told my H why I left & he doesn't get it & definitely didn't want to make the changes necessary (being financially responsible)....he would rather blame it on the adult ADD he was just Dx'ed with rather than working on correcting the problems......I left after 33 years of tolerating....& his comment was....."I thought you would continue tolerating it".....that sums up why I left.....but I'm really not sure that he really gets what the problem really is & that it started way before we ever got married.

Sometimes things evolve over the years & grow into such a complicated mess, it's hard to sum it up in a simple reason.....I know that was the case for me....by the end, I just hated everything about him & I don't think by that point there was anything he could have done to save the marriage because I would have never trusted him enough after all the lies & deceit I encountered through the years either.

Glad you are getting through this....& sometimes it's best to be alone even when one may feel lonely. I hope that I will be able to finish my divorce this year also......so many issues I have been dealing with put the divorce at a lower priority.....glad you are getting through this...know there is a huge sigh of relief involved when it's over....hope all goes smoothly.