Thank you for your post Skysblue
It was beautiful. Yes indeed, what a enigmatic process therapy is. There is no explanation for how or why it works because it is different for everyone as you said but your t is absolutely correct in saying that we have to trust the process. Your analogy of the onion is very apt to because the more I peel of the layers the more I cry.
For me, therapy has worked because my t treats me with positive regard and is the first person to listen and trust me. SHe is the first person to encourage me and make me stop and think, hey, I am worth talking to and maybe I am interesting enough to talk to. Thank you for the post.